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ISFJ recent post by a friend prompted me to reconfirm my Myers-Briggs personality profile — and, no surprise, I remain an ISFJ. Specifically, my profile looks like this:

  • very expressed introvert (78%)
  • distinctively expressed sensing personality (75%)
  • moderately expressed feeling personality (38%)
  • slightly expressed judging personality (22%)

A few bits of analysis from online regarding people with this personality type that I find particularly applicable to myself:

ISFJs are characterized above all by their desire to serve others, their “need to be needed.”

…They are not as outgoing and talkative as the Providers, except with close friends and relatives. With these they can chat tirelessly about the ups and downs in their lives, moving (like all the Guardians) from topic to topic as they talk over their everyday concerns. However, their shyness with strangers is often misjudged as stiffness, even coldness, when in truth these Protectors are warm-hearted and sympathetic, giving happily of themselves to those in need.

…Protectors are quite content to work alone; indeed, they may experience some discomfort when placed in positions of authority, and may try to do everything themselves rather than insist that others do their jobs.

While their work ethic is high on the ISFJ priority list, their families are the centers of their lives. ISFJs are extremely warm and demonstrative within the family circle–and often possessive of their loved ones, as well. … Needless to say, ISFJs take infinite trouble over meals, gifts, celebrations, etc., for their loved ones.

Like most Is, ISFJs have a few, close friends. They are extremely loyal to these, and are ready to provide emotional and practical support at a moment’s notice. (However, like most Fs they hate confrontation; if you get into a fight, don’t expect them to jump in after you. You can count on them, however, run and get the nearest authority figure.)

No wonder I’m so happy working at home by myself, interacting with coworkers primarily by email. (One of the areas where I disagree with the online analyses of ISFJs is their opinion that good career choices include medical professions and social work.)

seventh son of a seventh… no, wait

I’m the only daughter of an only daughter. The status “only child” is generally met with scorn or pity; and although I think I’ve turned out fairly well, I did grow up almost completely lacking in social skills and the ability to blend into new groups of people. It doesn’t help that I’m also the introvert child (ISFJ, to be exact) of an incredibly extroverted father and an introvert mother. To top it off, the extrovert father had a temper that he only learned to control later in life. I never heard my mother raise her voice, but I grew up watching her master the art of passive aggression to counter his anger. But — they loved each other passionately and completely. And I, their only child, their little girl, was/is the center of the universe.
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